Society members perform a number of customary social duties. When someone comes
back from a trip, his relatives, friends, and neighbors will drop by
to greet him. The same happens when someone is ill and confined to his
home or staying in a hospital. Everyone will visit him to give moral
support, check on him, and keep him company to ease his stay. When visiting
an ill person, visitors will usually bring food, chocolate, or fruits,
and occasionally flowers. Even when someone is ill and staying at the
hospital, his sons, closest relatives, or friends will show hospitality
to visitors by serving them refreshments or coffee and chocolate.
people get married, their relatives, friends, and neighbors will bring
gifts, which are usually either money or something that is useful for
the newly- established home. When a woman has a new baby, her relatives,
friends, and neighbors visit her to congratulate her and to present
her with gifts. The father of the new baby is also visited by his relatives,
friends, and neighbors to congratulate him. The mother of the new baby
will usually spend the first 40 days after the delivery in her family
house, where she will be taken care of by her mother and sisters.
culture is detail oriented. Ethics and expected social behaviors, like
generosity, respect, and caring, are not only definitions but are translated
into customs and social duties. On all the occasions I have listed in
the previous paragraph, there are customary sentences to be said which
correspond with the occasion.
The following are some of the sayings and their meanings:
visiting an ill person: "Maa Teshoof Sharr, Ajer Waafia In Shaa
Allah": I pray that you don't see harm, and by god's will it will
be added points to you with god and you will be cured.
visiting someone who returned from a trip: "Al Hamdo Lillah Ala
Al Salamah": I thank god for bringing you back safe.
visiting someone who has a new baby: "Yetrabba Be Ezzekum, Waa Allah
Yajaluhoh Min El Thorriah Al Salehah": May he/she (the new baby)
be raised in your goodness and may god make him/her be a good son/daughter.
visiting someone who is getting married: "Mabrook": Congratulations.